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“a woman we actually want to date” — how do we know that up front?
Trolls…pity dates…I’ve been on both sides of that equation, and I think the fear of wanting to avoid that experience might be even greater than the fear of a quick rejection.
I’ve accepted dates from guys I was pretty sure I wasn’t interested in…not for the free meal, since I almost always end up paying…but because I thought I might be missing something and wanted to give them a chance. And then because I was nice and polite, the situation just kept getting worse — them wanting to be friends and trying to plan date-like activities; continuing to express romantic interest even when I clearly articulated I didn’t feel that way. It made me regret ever having been nice.
I’ve also been out on dates with guys who were not capable of being romantically interested in me, but didn’t say no when I asked them out because they were too cowardly to do so. Figuring out that was the case was worse than never having gone out with them at all. If it’s a quick thumbs up/down, you can take it in stride, but after having spent the time to go out with them, you feel like a real chump.
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Jay_D2 says:
February 9, 2011 at 3:54 pm
Paula: “a woman we actually want to date” — how do we know that up front?
Relationship Advice -Mother's Day After Divorce
Advice on Whether or Not it's OK to Make Your Co-Worker an Office Spouse
Tips for Understanding a Spouses' Emotional Relationship Infidelity
Saying I Love You
Second Marriage Etiquette
Seeking Parental Approval
Dating Advice on Whether Flings are Harmless Fun or Dangerous Territory?
“a woman we actually want to date” — how do we know that up front?
Trolls…pity dates…I’ve been on both sides of that equation, and I think the fear of wanting to avoid that experience might be even greater than the fear of a quick rejection.
I’ve accepted dates from guys I was pretty sure I wasn’t interested in…not for the free meal, since I almost always end up paying…but because I thought I might be missing something and wanted to give them a chance. And then because I was nice and polite, the situation just kept getting worse — them wanting to be friends and trying to plan date-like activities; continuing to express romantic interest even when I clearly articulated I didn’t feel that way. It made me regret ever having been nice.
I’ve also been out on dates with guys who were not capable of being romantically interested in me, but didn’t say no when I asked them out because they were too cowardly to do so. Figuring out that was the case was worse than never having gone out with them at all. If it’s a quick thumbs up/down, you can take it in stride, but after having spent the time to go out with them, you feel like a real chump.
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Jay_D2 says:
February 9, 2011 at 3:54 pm
Paula: “a woman we actually want to date” — how do we know that up front?